Wednesday, February 5, 2020

THE FEAR OF …


After the evening Mass that I serve last Sunday, I assumed my usual position at the back of the church to greet the people as they left.  There was one particular person who moved by slowly as if they were going to engage with a handshake, but they moved on with a bashful greeting.  I continued greeting parishioners when the person returned and told me they had just started going to Church after being away for over 30 years.  After I took the chance to welcome them back, they told me that they needed to go to Confession.  As I turned to go get a priest, they grabbed my arm and said, “Not now!  I’m afraid.”  Well this opened a wonderful conversation and invitation.

This person is not alone: According to a CARA Pew survey, 45% of Catholics do not participate in the Sacrament of Reconciliation; 30% have gone less than once a year; and only 2% participate once a month.

Maybe stories like those in our first reading fuel these fears.  David regrets the census he ordered, and confesses to the LORD: “I have sinned grievously in what I have done. But now, LORD, forgive the guilt of your servant, for I have been very foolish.” God sends the message, here’s your alternatives: 3 years of famine, 3 months being chased by enemies, or 3 days pestilence?" (2 Sm 24:10-13) We’d much rather reflect on the stories like St. Agatha who lived a virtuous life, committed to her vow of chastity and love for Jesus, resisting every temptation and even giving her life as a witness to her faith.

Perhaps the fear of confessing is what keeps many Catholics away from not just the confessional but from engaging with the community of faith.  Bishop Robert Morneau of the Diocese of Green Bay, says this to scared Catholics: “Come on in. You’ll like it!”

When discussing the weight and value of this practice, Bishop Morneau uses an analogy: “When we become physically ill, we seek the assistance of a doctor.  Failure to seek medical care can lead to death.  The same is true at the spiritual level.  Spiritual illness needs the healing touch of Christ that comes to us through this holy practice.”

He continues: “Seeing a doctor for a common cold probably isn’t essential.  Seeing a doctor for a bowel obstruction is essential.  The comparison could be applied to venial and mortal sins.”

Sin thwarts life.  Sin impairs our spiritual growth.  Individuals who seek growth and fullness of life have to deal with the ‘dark side.’  The Sacrament of Reconciliation is one way.  Seven words—so difficult to say but so cathartic when said—are the keys to true freedom: “Bless me, father, for I have sinned.”[1]


[1] FranciscanSpirit, My Phobia with the Sacrament of Reconciliation posted by Christopher Heffron on 12/27/2018.

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