Friday, December 21, 2018

FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES

On the surface, the poetry in the book of Song of Songs expresses love between a man and woman; at a deeper level, it expresses the awesome love between God and humanity.Yet, for us, it is through our human interactions is the only way we can experience God’s love for now through what researchers call the Five Love Languages.

The first way to express love is to use of WORDS OF AFFIRMATION that build up. Solomon, author of ancient Hebrew Wisdom Literature, wrote, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue” (Prv 18:21). Unfortunately, many in our world have never learned or forgotten the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other.

Those we love require QUALITY TIME.  By “quality time” I mean giving someone your undivided attention.  Sitting on the couch watching television together, doesn’t count as quality time.   Giving each other our undivided attention means talking with each other, going out to eat, and actually looking at each other while we talk.  Time is a precious commodity often stolen away by the many demands on our lives.  In our Gospel today, we hear that Mary went “in haste” (Lk 1:39) to be present to Elizabeth.

Almost everything ever written on the subject of love indicates that at the heart of love is the spirit of giving.  All five love languages challenge us to give, but for some, RECEIVING GIFTS, visible symbols of love, speaks the loudest.  You must be thinking of someone to give them a gift.

Jesus’ primary love language was ACTS OF SERVICEHis acts of service included healings & feedings, his presence, encouragement to repent, and his sharing message of hope, sharing the good news.  His entire being was about serving the other, especially the lost, the outcast, and the forsaken.

We have long known that PHYSICAL TOUCH is a way of communicating love.  Research projects in the area of child development have concluded babies who are held, stroked and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact.  Physical touch is a powerful way to communicate love, a hand shake, a hug, a simple kiss on the forehead or check, or a sign of peace in our liturgy all express a love of neighbor.[1]

From the Annunciation, to the Nativity, right up to the invitation to enter into Jesus’ passion, death and resurrection in this Eucharistic celebration; Luke wants his readers and us to recognize the Holy Spirit as the driving force in the lives of God’s faithful love for his people. He wants us to understand the Eucharist is God’s love language.


[1] Adapted from Focus on the Family, “Understanding the Five Love Languages” by Cary Chapman © 2015.

No comments:

Post a Comment